Progress: There are no limits to what you are able to achieve, but accept that humans are not robots and will make mistakes. Acknowledge your achievements at all times but especially in failure so you don't beat yourself up, it will never be completely negative. Acknowledge your strategy's achievements at all times but especially in success, so you don't get a big head.
Achievements
Achievements are of course fairly easy to deal with, but the one thing you must do is acknowledge them. It is very easy when constantly focusing on the big picture to forget or ignore your smaller victories or judge them unfairly against your large goals that might take months/years to accomplish. This is a major mistake as it creates low self esteem as one soon feels that despite their best efforts none are ever enough.
Maintaining high self esteem is very important for continued success. All of us at some point have experienced feeling good about ourselves and I'm sure most have acknowledged that when we feel this way, everything in life is easier.
The problem with this is not the way we feel, but how we think. We are basing our self esteem on our feelings, rather than our actions. What’s wrong with this? Well more often than not, our feelings are based in the past. A good example of this, is when you start your first job. Although we were young adults with ample social skills, most of us felt like embarrassed and nervous children. I’m sure most people can relate to this, or can think of a situation in which similar feelings have arisen.
The key thing to take away here is that, we judge ourselves on how we feel, but what we feel is often out-of-date. This is why it is imperative to acknowledge your daily achievements and feel the good feelings that this brings. As it updates your perception of reality and of yourself. This action ensures that you end each day happy and start each day in a healthy state of mind.
Having said this it is equally important to acknowledge the achievements of your plan so as not to get overconfident and take too greater risks.
Problems
Problems are not things to fear, they are things to embrace.
As soon as you acknowledge and accept them, they allow you to learn and thus make your plan stronger.
There are only 2 types of problems, they are...
1. Personal Problems: The only time you fail personally is when you don't commit to your goal. The failure of your plan is not personal failure because you did not create it, the plan did, therefore it is external. When you fail personally to commit to your plan there is a simple explanation and a simple fix.
Explanation: Provided it’s not fear... When you find that you are not committing to your goal It’s not lack of desire (that you don’t want to be successful) that halts you, it is lack of direction and drive (that you’ve got so caught up in the detail you’ve forgotten why you’re doing it).
Fix: Simply remind yourself of your Direction by stating your goal then remind and give yourself Drive by explaining why you want it. you can do this as often as needed. This simple exercise realigns you and reminds you why you are doing all this work and why it deserves your faith. Let your emotions (self pity / self flagellation / self righteousness) go , they only keep you from doing what needs to done.
2. External Problems: Accept that external problems maybe your responsibility but they are not your fault. Whatever the problem, stop, get the facts, work only from the facts and acknowledge that you can only work as fast as the world will allow. Again let your emotions (self pity / self flagellation / self righteousness) go , they only keep you from doing what needs to done.
Remember that the very fact that you trying is progress and must be acknowledged.
Lastly let me say this (and this is learnt from years of experience). Indulging your emotions is time consuming and completely counter productive. The emotions you feel won’t change anything and will only make you react incorrectly for longer. Why? because it extends the period in which you are over emotional. Let your emotions go (self pity / self flagellation / self righteousness), they only keep you from doing what needs to done. If you still can’t calm down let me ask you this, “will this even remotely matter in 5 years time”?
Achievements
Achievements are of course fairly easy to deal with, but the one thing you must do is acknowledge them. It is very easy when constantly focusing on the big picture to forget or ignore your smaller victories or judge them unfairly against your large goals that might take months/years to accomplish. This is a major mistake as it creates low self esteem as one soon feels that despite their best efforts none are ever enough.
Maintaining high self esteem is very important for continued success. All of us at some point have experienced feeling good about ourselves and I'm sure most have acknowledged that when we feel this way, everything in life is easier.
The problem with this is not the way we feel, but how we think. We are basing our self esteem on our feelings, rather than our actions. What’s wrong with this? Well more often than not, our feelings are based in the past. A good example of this, is when you start your first job. Although we were young adults with ample social skills, most of us felt like embarrassed and nervous children. I’m sure most people can relate to this, or can think of a situation in which similar feelings have arisen.
The key thing to take away here is that, we judge ourselves on how we feel, but what we feel is often out-of-date. This is why it is imperative to acknowledge your daily achievements and feel the good feelings that this brings. As it updates your perception of reality and of yourself. This action ensures that you end each day happy and start each day in a healthy state of mind.
Having said this it is equally important to acknowledge the achievements of your plan so as not to get overconfident and take too greater risks.
Problems
Problems are not things to fear, they are things to embrace.
As soon as you acknowledge and accept them, they allow you to learn and thus make your plan stronger.
There are only 2 types of problems, they are...
1. Personal Problems: The only time you fail personally is when you don't commit to your goal. The failure of your plan is not personal failure because you did not create it, the plan did, therefore it is external. When you fail personally to commit to your plan there is a simple explanation and a simple fix.
Explanation: Provided it’s not fear... When you find that you are not committing to your goal It’s not lack of desire (that you don’t want to be successful) that halts you, it is lack of direction and drive (that you’ve got so caught up in the detail you’ve forgotten why you’re doing it).
Fix: Simply remind yourself of your Direction by stating your goal then remind and give yourself Drive by explaining why you want it. you can do this as often as needed. This simple exercise realigns you and reminds you why you are doing all this work and why it deserves your faith. Let your emotions (self pity / self flagellation / self righteousness) go , they only keep you from doing what needs to done.
2. External Problems: Accept that external problems maybe your responsibility but they are not your fault. Whatever the problem, stop, get the facts, work only from the facts and acknowledge that you can only work as fast as the world will allow. Again let your emotions (self pity / self flagellation / self righteousness) go , they only keep you from doing what needs to done.
Remember that the very fact that you trying is progress and must be acknowledged.
Lastly let me say this (and this is learnt from years of experience). Indulging your emotions is time consuming and completely counter productive. The emotions you feel won’t change anything and will only make you react incorrectly for longer. Why? because it extends the period in which you are over emotional. Let your emotions go (self pity / self flagellation / self righteousness), they only keep you from doing what needs to done. If you still can’t calm down let me ask you this, “will this even remotely matter in 5 years time”?
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